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Adult Peer Pressure

by Brooke Cason
April 15, 2010
Brooke Cason

A great example of adult peer pressure that I hear about and that we deal with in our ministry is teachers, church leaders, family members, etc. making advancements toward young people. This is disgusting, but it happens all the time. However, as mothers, mentors, and Godly women we must be attentive to not only getting caught up in peer pressure, but challenging ourselves to refrain from adult peer pressure.

I will give you an example of someone who needed mentoring. This person's "adult peer" started telling them that they were not lovable anymore. The pressure then came subtly like satan approaches. This person knew that if they told what was happening, authorities would be contacted and the "adult peer" would lose their job. Therefore, this person fell prey to the tactics of satan and the pressure of this authoritative figure. It went on and on until the truth was revealed. The parents then addressed the situation and of course the adult lost their job. That was the right thing for the young person to do! These parents did not fall prey to adult peer pressure. 

Women and young ladies, Satan is always looking for a way to creep into your life and make you do things that are wrong (sin). 1 Corinthians 10:13 gives us the solution for refraining from adult peer pressure. It says, "There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able: but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it." If you will turn to God for direction and guidance, He will make a way of escape for you. The choice is yours. Will you choose God or will you choose satan? It is not Godly to live under the pressures of others. You do not have to please those around you. You should concentrate on what is pleasing to God most of all and then you will be pleasing to others.

As women, the Bible teaches us that we are the weaker vessel (1 Peter 3:7). However, that does not mean that we are to be abused by men or peers. It simply means that we are more physically and emotionally sensitive. Be thankful today for what God has blessed you with and pray for those who are not as fortunate as you. Do not allow your peers to conform you to their ways. This is where you should take the responsibility of being the stronger vessel by standing strong in your convictions of not only moral living, but righteousness. Do not be the victim or the instigator of adult peer pressure. God will make a way of escape when you are drawn into such temptations. Make God's way of escape your exit from the situation.

*** Taken from "Restructuring Your World - Young Adult Edition" ***

Comments

Jessica Guinn 12:55 AM Fri, Apr 16, 2010

First of all, I want to say that I love the new website! I can't wait to see the number of people that you reach through the devotionals, webcasts, etc. Brooke, I can relate to your post. When I was in high school, if you would have asked me to define "peer pressure" I would have probably stated "sex, drugs and alcohol," but it's so much more than that. I started working in a county office about a week after I graduated, and I quickly learned that peer pressure goes way beyond the halls of our high schools. There is so much gossip, backbiting, and cheating to get ahead. I have to admit that at times, it's hard not to get pulled in, but I'm thankful that God always makes a way of escape! I'm also thankful that when I do fall prey to peer pressure that the Holy Spirit quickly lets me know. Then, I can ask forgiveness and "he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." -John 1:9

Jamie Britt 08:19 AM Fri, Apr 16, 2010

Brooke, thank you for your devotional. I really needed to read this. I've never really thought about "adult peer pressure." I'm dealing with that now. It's not a morral issue, but peer pressure all the same. I have family who think that sending out weekly devotionals is wrong because I'm a woman. But, look at you and Brenda. You send them out! After all, the more the Lord can reach through my devotionals, the better! I look forward to seeing what else God has to say to me through you all! God bless you, and I love you!

Kristi 12:49 AM Sat, Apr 17, 2010

Brooke, what a great post! Most people don't think of adults having peer pressure; however it's real and a very strong tool of the devil. This is hard to say and swallow, but I fall under adult peer pressure a lot because I am such a people pleaser~I don't like to disappoint others. I feel like I should be doing what others think, when really I should be focused on pleasing Him and thanking Him for His escape plan! Thanks for this post~isomething I really needed to hear. Love you!

Emily McCarley 01:14 AM Sat, Apr 17, 2010

Brooke, this is a great article, if only we could get this into our colleges. You are a great speaker and wanderful Elijah. Don't ever think any different. Also, thanks so much for all you and Labron have done for us, and for your prayers for my father-in-law. You guys mean so much to us! See ya tommorrow!

Brooke Cason 04:00 PM Sat, Apr 17, 2010

Jessica, You are so right. When we are young and in school we do think that peer pressure is "sex, drugs, and alcohol." That's all we can see at that point in our lives, but it is SOOOO much more. I sometimes think that adult peer pressure is worse to deal with. When do we stop trying to fit in and start doing what we know is God's will for OUR lives? When do we stop caring about what others think and start listening to God's voice? I know it's hard to deal with, but you are so right....God does make a way of escape. He just wants to know if we will hold to His promises. In Christ, Brooke

Brooke Cason 04:07 PM Sat, Apr 17, 2010

Jamie, We are not women preachers and we don't have to be that to share what God has laid on our hearts. There is nothing wrong with you sharing what God shows you through His Word. That's what He expects us to do. He doesn't give us these things for us to keep them to ourselves. Just keep sharing your devotionals as the Lord gives them to you. Kristi, Hang in there! God is in control and He is the only one we should try to please. It doesn't matter what everybody else thinks as long as you are doing what God would have for you to do. Strive to please Him. Emily, I'm so thankful that God placed you and Koty in our lives. You two are very special to us and it was an honor for you to ask us to pray for your father-in-law. God is GOOD! Love to all, Brooke

ann 02:50 PM Sun, Apr 18, 2010

Brooke, great post its so true we do have peer pressure and sometimes it is hard for me with my type of work I come across alot of things but on the other hand I can also be a witness to alot of people and I thank God for that. I am finally opening up a little bit, I have always been sooooooo shy and couldnt talk to people but God is helping me deal with that little by little.... God is so good, and I want to be that light for Him and a example to my kids and my husband.... Enjoyed yeserday, kayla still saying how much fun she had..thanks for the day.. love yall!!

rita bledsoe 03:00 PM Mon, Apr 19, 2010

when i was growing up peer pressure was being pick on unmercyful . but now that i am grown i know that it is so much more . i am so thank ful that i have never been rape or sexual abused . i personally know some one that was sexually abuse when she was a child and i have seen what it has done to her and it is NOT a pretty picture . pressure comes in many forms and i thank god for his strength to stand under the pressure some times .

Marlynne Boyer 05:16 PM Thu, May 13, 2010

Thank you Sis. Cason for sharing these inspiring words. I recently have been facing peer pressure even though I am an adult. I experienced being pressured in a relationship with a guy I trusted...a "Christian" guy to have sex even though I felt uncomfortable and knew that it was wrong. When I finally made a stand against it because of having strong convictions, he left me for another woman. It's still hard for me because at first he made promises of marriage and having a family with me. Then, to find out that when I confessed to him that I felt convicted about sex only to be dumped by him...I was devastated a little. Thank God for Jesus and this wonderful devotional.

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